Mini-Vows: Two Monthly Poetry Readings for an Audience of One

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Beth Jamie Feingold and Daisy Anna Freund were married July 7 at Churchtown Dairy, a biodynamic farm in Hudson, N.Y. Jill S. Schneiderman, a friend of the couple who became a Universal Life minister for the occasion, officiated in a ceremony with Jewish traditions.

Dr. Feingold (left), 38, is an assistant professor of environmental health sciences at the University at Albany, with research focusing on environmental health exposures. She graduated cum laude from Vassar, and received a Master of Environmental Science and a Master of Public Health from Yale, as well as a Ph.D. in public health from Johns Hopkins.

She is a daughter of Geraldine J. Feingold and Alan Feingold of the Villages, Fla.

Ms. Freund, 33, works in New York and Hudson, N.Y., as the director of farm animal welfare at the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals in New York. She graduated cum laude from Dartmouth and received a master’s degree in food systems from the University of Gastronomic Sciences in Pollenzo, Italy.

She is the daughter of Lee R. Sable and Hugh J. Freund of New York.

After Ms. Freund sent Dr. Feingold an initial hello on the dating app Tinder in February 2015, they soon realized they were kindred spirits, at least when it came to advocacy for making a better food system.

“I noticed a screenshot of her on TV talking about chicken farming,’’ said Dr. Feingold, who responded by asking her about livestock farming.

Then Dr. Feingold’s name rang a bell to Ms. Freund, who recalled reading an article on her research on the spread of antibiotic resistance from hog farming, and even citing her research in a paper she wrote for the A.S.P.C.A. linking antibiotic use and farm animal welfare.

“It’s rare to meet someone online who works in reforming industrial agriculture,” said Ms. Freund, whose expectations plummeted once she learned Dr. Feingold lived in Albany, and she was not keen on Dr. Feingold suggesting they meet at sports bar in the East Village to watch a basketball game the next week, when she planned to be back in town.

Ms. Freund, hardly a sports fan, warily agreed figuring there would at least be a professional connection. “We didn’t even watch the game we were talking too much,” Ms. Freund said. Three weeks later they had a second date at a farm in Cold Spring, N.Y., where Ms. Freund once worked as a livestock apprentice.

They soon began seeing each other regularly, and on June 7, 2015, exactly three months after they met, Ms. Freund sent Dr. Feingold a voice memo of a poem by Lee Robinson, to which Dr. Feingold responded with a voice memo with one by Adrienne Rich.

“The tradition started,” said Dr. Feingold, and they began exchanging poems on the seventh of every month.

Dr. Feingold introduced Ms. Freund to another tradition — camping — and soon they set a goal of hiking the entire Appalachian Trail together over the course of their lives.

On July 7, 2017, while camping in a section of the Appalachian Trail at Race Mountain in the Berkshires, unknowingly, each planned to propose.

“Well it’s the seventh, so we should read our poems,’’ said Ms. Freund, who pretended she forgot to bring hers, and said she came up with a haiku, and asked Dr. Feingold to help count its syllables on her fingers. “I want you by me,’’ Ms. Freund said, “wherever the trail may lead. Will you marry me?” and placed a ring on Dr. Feingold’s finger.

After a quick yes, that stunned Ms. Freund, Dr. Feingold bolted to the tent to retrieve her poem by Kay Ryan, “Tree Heart/True Heart,’’ and then she too produced a ring over their laughter.

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