I Married a Millennial. I Married a Gen Xer. Now What?


The couple’s differing approaches to social media couldn’t have been more obvious than when Mr. Wickham refused to change his relationship status on Facebook. Ms. London wanted him to switch from “single” to “in a relationship,” but Mr. Wickham didn’t think it was important. He resisted until they tied the knot in 2017. That’s when he changed it to “married,” much to Veronica’s relief.

“It really bothered me,” said Ms. London, adding that she and Mr. Wickham had numerous conversations about why he wouldn’t change the designation. “I wanted him to be more transparent about us on social media.”

The Eggs Won’t Wait. Is It Time for a Baby?

Technology isn’t the only way generational differences play into a marriage. For some, it’s coming into the relationship from different life stages.

Kate Bittman, a 40-year-old public relations consultant from Manhattan, says that as happy as she was after falling in love with her husband, Nick Traverse, 32, she was worried that he wouldn’t want to have children soon enough. They met in 2010 while working at The New Yorker; she was a 32-year-old public relations associate and he was a 24-year-old editorial assistant. Sparks flew, and as things grew more serious, she dreaded the idea of bringing up marriage and children so early, but she felt like she needed to.

“Deep down, I was worried, ‘My eggs! My eggs!’ I wasn’t even sure I wanted to have kids, but when you fall in love, you need to at least talk about it,” she said.

Mr. Traverse, now an editor at Architectural Digest, felt he was too young at that point, but he said he would begin to consider it, which eased her fears that she’d get too old to have a baby. After he proposed in 2014, Ms. Bittman was thrilled and said yes. But something nagged at her: When would he be ready for children? She asked him, heart racing.


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